Verbal communication between parents and children can greatly affect a child’s growth. It makes parents need to give good words in educating children. Parents need to consistently teach positive things that must be applied in the minds of children, so that children will continue to feel supported by the people closest to them.
Margot Bisnow, author of “Raising an Entrepreneur: How to Help Your Children Achieve Their Dream”, has conducted interviews with 70 parents who have successfully educated their children to motivate them to become successful. From that interview, Bisnow found that they said the following 5 phrases to their children.
- “Mom and Dad can’t do everything for you”
Don’t be an overprotective parent who always interferes with your child. Parents must trust their children and give them responsibility. Robert Stephens, a former executive at Best Buy, when he was three years old, he removed all the doorknobs in his house. “My parents weren’t angry, they just told me I had to give everything back,” he said.
- “Be nice and do your best”
In 2006, Blake Mycoskie founded TOMS, which has produced more than 95 million pairs of shoes. The company introduced a one-for-one business model, where for every purchase of one item, one item will be donated to those in need. Apparently, since childhood, Mycoskie’s parents have taught the importance of sharing with others. Every Christmas, his family has a tradition of donating through the church. This good example turned out to be very imprinted on Mycoskie’s mind, he even continued his various missions to others through the TOMS business.
- “If something doesn’t work out, don’t be sad. This failure might be a good thing later on.”
Children need to learn to win and lose, and not to obsess over mistakes. Jonathan Neman has tried to start a number of businesses since he was in college. None of the businesses were successful. But he learned about what worked and what didn’t. After college, he and his friends founded Sweetgreen, which now has more than 900 locations across the country.
- “What was the best and worst thing that happened to you today?”
You can ask them about the best or worst thing that happened to them during the day. Such statements can open important conversations between parents and children. In addition, parents can also understand the condition of their children, including if they face problems at school. However, keep in mind, do not intervene and trust the child to solve the problem on their own.
- “Mom and Dad love you”
Asian parents are generally not very expressive in conveying their affection and love for their children. In fact, it is important to encourage their self-confidence. This is very good for the development of each child and can be a factor in their success in the future.